Stressed out Syndrome
By
Super User
When you are stressed out probably the last thing you feel like is having sex (although it would certainly help you to relax.) You are tense, tired and have worrying thoughts whirling around in your head.
The pressure of life today is stressful .Our primitive flight or fight response was originally intended to prime out ancestors to deal with threats like hairy mammoths. Today they can be triggered by all kinds of things from traffic jams to critical bosses. Short of an outburst of road rage or punching the boss, (never advisable) an immediate physical response which would alleviate the side effects of stress like raised adrenalin just isn't available to you.
You may also be stressing yourself by criticising your own performance or be at loggerheads with your partner. All of which are likely to make you feel drained and worn out.
The pressure of life today is stressful .Our primitive flight or fight response was originally intended to prime out ancestors to deal with threats like hairy mammoths. Today they can be triggered by all kinds of things from traffic jams to critical bosses. Short of an outburst of road rage or punching the boss, (never advisable) an immediate physical response which would alleviate the side effects of stress like raised adrenalin just isn't available to you.
You may also be stressing yourself by criticising your own performance or be at loggerheads with your partner. All of which are likely to make you feel drained and worn out.
How to reduce stress
There are plenty of things that you can do to reduce stress: worth trying before you throw up the day job and move to the peace of the countryside.
- Try changing your response to stressors, if you're stuck in a jam you can't do anything about it. Use your time to do something else, like relaxation exercises Realise that the boss is having a bad day or respond assertively.
- Exercise is a great de-stressor and produces" feel good" endorphins, try a half hour of aerobic exercise three times a week.
- Changes in behaviour can lighten the load, like learning better time management skills or using flexi hours to beat traffic.
- Be kind to yourself, take a little time out to meditate or ask your partner for a soothing massage.
- Don't sweat the small stuff, decide on a few things that would really make a difference and try to change those.
- Conflict is stressful, take time to listen to your partner be curious about their point of view, ask them to do the same for you. Rather than blaming say what you would like to happen.
